No, we didn't notice her. You mean the one with the tight green shirt, perfect C-cup breasts, low-cut jeans, lacy underwear peeking out the back, with the hair lightly brushing the top of her shoulders, and with a belly so tight that she makes Jessica Simpson looks like Homer Simpson? That one? Nope, didn't spot her.
We hate admitting it to you, but you surely know it anyway. Yes, we look at other women. yes, we like looking at other women. Yes, some women, when we see them, automatically become filed in our all-time close-our-eyes fantasy file. nearly four inf ive men admit to fantasizing about other women while they're in a relationship. Want details? Well then, 18 percent of us fantasize about someone famous, 30 percent about someone we see around but don't really know, 28 percent about a friend or acquaintance, and 14 percent about a past girlfriend.
But here's the thing. We love you. (LiLi --> Roll eyes. You know what's the logic? it's like, i love riding in the rollercoaster, bumpy rides, merry-go-round, viking ships etc.. but here's the thing, i don't like carnivals/going to such places. *super roll eyes*)
In your mind, it might be impossible to see how we can separate our eyes from our actions, or our eyes from our feelings. In your mind, maybe you think that what we do when we look at other women, think about women, or talk with other women has to be some kind of a message about our relationship with you. If we look, we must not be happy. If we briefly wonder what another woman looks like naked, we must not be satisfied with you. If we somehow click with the female bartender, then we must be on the next train heading out of Commitmentville. But for us, it's easy to separate. Most times, one has very little to do with the other. We separate the other women in our lives from you, the way we can separate David Hasselhoff fromJack Nicholson. There's only one we really take seriously.
The men in our survey said:
"We think about having sex with your sister, cousin, aunt, the coffee barista, that chunky woman next to you on the treadmill, but we don't act on it. But we do think about it."
"Thinking about sex and checking out women isn't something we can always control. It comes from the reptile part of the brain - it's basic, powerful drive. There are times we wish we could stop it, it would make our lives a lot easier"
So what do you think, ladies?
Well.. what i think is... initially.. i thought guys checking out girls are already gross...
This whole book just makes it even worse.
Now i feel all guys are some psycho tiko freaks.
You know, here's the thing.
Men always say, "I hate doing this, i hate doing that BUT I JUST have to do it"
Oh, so we are suppose to go, "Oh poor thing."
DEFINITELY NOT!
So what now.. we are suppose to think men have "brain build with reptile-function" and forgo the fact that their little/small actions has an indirect impact on our confidence?
Alright, looking at women... might just be like... women looking at bags, window shopping. (I hate to do this comparison, but this is the way things are) men don't take us seriously when we told them that we really dislike it when they look at women because they feel, "Well, there are women walking around. So if there's a pretty one, why can't i take a few more looks?"
If you want to use bags as a comparison.
Fine.
Okay, let's say...
A woman is doing window shopping. She walk pass the LV bag collection while holding the Gucci bag. She look inside and saw, "oh gosh! A LV bag!"
and then, there'll be a million images/visions of her holding onto the bag. How her friends'd think, "oh my god! U have a LV bag!", how she'd be able to show off with it, use it etc.
So is there a possibility that this Gucci would be chunk away while she get the LV bag?
Well, ask any woman. IT'S POSSIBLE!
What does this prove?
It's the same concept as how men reacts and seems like.
This man is holding onto his gf's hand, taking a walk down orchard road.
Then he sees a gorgeous lady and he took a few more looks.
Then, he'd fantasize, "Oh my, her hair looks great. her hips looks great. her breasts looks great etc etc." okay. so who's that holding onto your hand? Your kid?
Or you forgot someone is holding onto your hand?
And if you want to put it as a, "I look only mah... i didn't act on it."
Alright.
Try telling that to the police when you are a witness to a murder which took place right in front of you and you didn't help to stop it or call the police.
"I look only mah.. i didn't act on it. I fantasize only."
BULLSHIT!
Back to the bags example...
you tell your mom, "Mom, i'm going window shopping."
Mom goes, "Huh? again? I thought you have a bag already etc?"
You "have bag then cannot go look meh? walk around lah!"
what your mom always say?
Mom "BO LIAO! If you don't wanna buy, DON'T LOOK! don't TEMPT YOURSELF and waste money at the end of the day, coming back, telling me "i can't control myself. this bag just look gorgeous!""
Point proven.
And yes, we women thinks that when men looks, it's serve as a message to our relationship somehow.
How about this. I give you this scenario.
Man and gf walking down the streets.
Man: babe, have CONFIDENCE in yourself. you look great! Seriously!
Gf: Really? But i just feel.. my boobs are too small and all. And.. look.. i'm having tummy fats.
Man: darling, you look great. i like the way you are now. Your boobs are just the right size!
Gf: serious? But lotsa ppl thinks it's too small...
Man: Serious! can't you believe me? your boobs are just the right... size... *look at other woman's boobs*
Gf: right size? compared to other women, i think mine is really small.
Man: stop comparing yourself with other women. just be yourself. you are you. *Look at another woman*
Okay.. so we are suppose to have confidence in ourselves when YOU who are my boyfriend is looking at other woman.
yes, we think that if you look at other woman, you are not satisfied with us.
And fantasizing, it's seriously.. seriously... GROSS!!!
It's even WORSE THAN PORN!
Let me ask...
Why do men look? What? There's a sensor in their eyes that detects gorgeous woman and automatically heads turn and the gaze'll follow the woman when she walk pass?
It's YOUR EYES. YOUR BRAIN. YOUR HANDS. YOUR LEGS. YOU CONTROL WHAT YOU DO! Dun give that bullshit, "I can't control". NONSENSE! Unless you tell me you have some mental deficiency, if not, it's BULLSHIT.
I just don't understand. How come i hear so many of guys looking at girls but not the other way round?
I know why.
Because if women looks at men for more than 5 seconds, it means we are onto something or we are just desperate tiko hmm (Desperate aunties) while for men, it's perfectly okay because they can't control it. WHAT THE HELL?!
Let me tell you this, men...
You want your gf to be satisfied with herself, her A-cup breasts (not saying myself), her big butt, her little baby fats etc.. THEN START BEING SUPPORTIVE!
It's hard to be confident of yourself when your loved ones go goggling at other gorgeous woman and you know what we think?
"How i wish i look just like her.."
And when we start imagining that, we'd go, "My breasts are too small etc" routine. And some of you guys, are sick and tired of your gf complaining about their body because it seems they are never satisfied with it.
let me ask you.
ARE YOU SATISFIED WITH IT?
It's hard to have confidence when your own bf is looking at other girls when he is holding your hands or even if HE IS NOT holding your hands.
Guys wanna pass a message to us saying, "It's okay to look. it does not put pass on a message to our relationship ec"
Great.
Go tell it to 1000000000000 million of women in this planet.
When a woman sees that a guy who have a gf is looking at her, you know what the woman thinks?
Only a bitch would think, "Oh man. i look great that i attract guys with gf!"
but a normal woman would go, "oh gosh. that's humiliating." and automaticaly, the woman would turn to look at the gf and go, "Oh.. she's not good looking. no wonder he's looking at other women." or... "eh, she's good looking ah... weird guy."
YES, THIS IS WHAT WE THINK.
You know what i think the guys out there should do?
Unless your gf don't mind...
STOP LOOKING at girls!
let me ask you.
Do you go looking at other women when you are out on a first date with the woman you want to be with?
Obviously NOT unless you are not interested in the woman.
So where this concept goes to when both of you are together?
We women knows that it is impossible but we somehow dream that everyday would be like our first date. And that includes the EQUAL ATTENTION provided to us.
Guys, focus on your date. Focus on your gf. Focus on your wife.
provide her the same attention as to how you had provided her on the first date.
Everyone wants attention. You want attention?
Good.
Give some.
You want trust?
Good.
Give some reason for us to trust you.
You want respect?
Give some.
You want us to love our body the way it is?
Good.
Love our body. (Which does not include fantasizing and looking at other women's body.)
"And this marks THE END of the entry."
8:36 AM
8:36 AM
Living a life full of life. That's all about me that you should know.