School starts again today. Sometimes, i feel that my entire week is so organized because of all the classes and lessons that there's no room for me to breathe at all. I wanna PAK TOR!!! $%^&*(
i realized something about most people...
People are quick to judge and complain but are never quick to stop and think.. to compliment.
They'd give a silent nod or think to themselves, "Oh, she is good." and made a silent acknowledgment about it.
Why, people?
We should appreciate every single things in life.
If we keep stopping to look, judge and complain about everybody's flaws, we are never going to have any friends etc. Because no one is perfect. Everyone has flaws.
The way to be happy is to overlook and accept the flaws while complimenting on the good sides of one.
I'm not saying that if your loved ones go and steal etc, u stand by there and overlook everything.
No.
I'm sure there are certain flaws in your loved ones that you couldn't tolerate. Like, for example... If your bf/gf is always late.. you know that it's not only going to affect your personal timing when meeting him/her, it's going to affect his/her career etc.. sound it out and IMPROVE.
But those little little small flaws like for example, maybe he/she is a little messy (ahem), then it's okay. *whistle*
The same goes for friends.
You can't expect your friend to be 24/7 on standby. Your friend has to get on with his/her life, you have yours. Doesn't mean that your friend doesn't care if he/she can't meet you on that day.
Think of it this way..
Life is your own.
It's yours, and only has you and only concerns you.
No one has any obligations to care about your life. Not even your family, friends etc.
So don't expect anyone to. If you can't take care of yourself, too bad. You don't go blaming other people for your own mistakes. And if you are stuck in a rut, too bad. Life is yours. What do you expect? Other people to live it for you?
Friends, bf/gf, husband/wife, family are only there to walk ALONGSIDE you through your journey. They have no obligations to stay with you throughout either. People come and go.
If you keep having the thought that, "why there are times when i need her, she is not with me? She is my best friend!" if not, "Why can't she meet me?" if not, "why can't she do this do that do this do that?"
What do you think you are doing?
DIY best friend?
You can't control what other people do.. you can control what you are doing. You don't expect everyone to behave the same way as you do and react the same way as you do when the same situation arise. Everybody cares/do/say things differently from each other. Accept it. If you can't, move on.
If you can't move on, thinking that the person does have good sides too, then why the hell are you concentrating on all the bad?
Some people are weird.. up till now, i don't see a need to make a fuss.
Like.. uploading of pictures.
I only took pictures with her BEFORE i used facebook. I don't go uploading every single historical and ancient pictures i have in the facebook. If i were to meet her now and we take pictures, yes, I will upload within one day because facebook is easy to upload pictures. Is there a need to make a huge fuss over it?
Each time I asked her out, she'd last minute tell me, "Oh, i'm sick." and ended up where she went? Her bf's house to have dinner. I don't even dare to count how many times was that. Did i get angry or make noise over it? No. I could have. I chose not to.
This kinda small little stuffs do not have to be blown up like it's the end of the world.
Times when I was with her, spent bloody hell lots of time helping her, messaging her, 24/7 by my phone to reply her messages, did she appreciate it? Does she remember?
No.
But she chose to look at all the times i did not upload my pictures and couldn't meet her.
People, look here.
Everyone has flaws. Everyone is BOUND to do something which is going to make you bloody unhappy.. doesn't mean you go jumping down everyone's throat.
Another example, back in secondary school days, I'd this good friend of mine. I kept lending her money, each day, there goes $4 out of my pocket. Everything we eat, I'd be paying. She'd say, "Can you help me pay first?" and she'd NEVER return. Up to now, not a single cent. I would say the total amount can go up to $500 - $700.
But up till now, before that incident that happened last week, I was still contacting her.
Why?
There was even once, i suspected her of stealing my stuffs (Which is obviously her). + She never return a single cent to me + 80% of the time, she'd last minute on that day MIA when I'm suppose to meet her etc.
I chose to overlook everything because she has a good sides too.
If you want to be pissed over small little things and fuss about stuffs like this, i can assure you.. you'd never find a life-time friend.
Because no one is good enough for you.
And look at yourself.. don't you have flaws too?
I admit, i have flaws. I tend to procastinate. I'm quick tempered. I'm impatient. I'm bossy. I'm competitive.
Does that make me the worst person on earth? Because if you ask anyone who'd crossed path with me... you ask anyone who'd tell you, "I'd been Li Li's friend and she had not done ANYTHING that makes me think she is a nice person."
Because i believe anyone that has crossed path with me will know I always put in effort. I might not have time to meet you doesn't mean I'm ignorant about your stuffs. Times when i helped you.. do you remember a single thing? Do you go, "Thanks!" Do you go, "There are good sides of her too." when we had a tiff? Because I do.
I always overlook stuffs which i can overlook.
Because only that way, i'm a happy person.
So people, morale of the story..
Everyone is special. Everyone has flaws. Everyone has good sides of them. All it takes is to concentrate on the good sides.
Like a vase. One side is cracked, the other side is still intact. You want to throw it away but you find that this vase is hard to come by and you really love it alot. So do you go decorating it on your table with the cracked side facing you? And each time you walk by, you go, "Seriously, the stupid crack.."
Why can't you just turn the good side to you and appreciate the good sides?
Think.
"And this marks THE END of the entry."
9:34 AM
9:34 AM
Living a life full of life. That's all about me that you should know.