My Life. My Diary.

Reflection

I hate being controlled.
I hate being told what to do.
I hate feeling helpless.
I hate having to comply just because "other people said so". It's MY FREAKING LIFE!
I hate mind games
I hate ignorant people
I hate people who are overly-positive to the extend that, HELLO! There's a problem in front of you! Stop thinking that fairies will come to save you!
I hate people who are overly-pessimistic. You are not dead yet.
I hate being taken for granted.
I enjoy doing things because I want to.
I love showing my love.
I love having a good time with my friends and loved ones.
I enjoy a good laugh
I hate endless arguments and fighting just to prove who is right or wrong when in actual fact, it's only a battle of who argues better.
I hate men who raise their voices at me.
I love it when men are willing to forgo their pride and ego for the ones they loved.
I hate people who drop bombs.
I hate gu niang(s).
I love hand-made stuffs even a simple letter will do.
I love hanging out with my friends.
I love traveling with my family.
I love cuddling and relaxing during the weekends with my partner.
I hate men who go gaga at women. GET A LIFE, please.

I think I'd ample entries on ladies-looking.

I shall repeat the conclusion again.

If you think it's harmless to look etc, think again. Yes, it's true. It's not like you touched the lady etc. But it's DISGUSTING.

1. You do not have confidence in yourself, in any case, that's the impression you set out to give people!
2. Makes you look desperate.
3. If you've a partner, DON'T HAVE A PARTNER. Because if you do, he/she deserve your attention the most, don't you think.
4. You look like some old uncle, picking your nose, rubbing your belly and goggling at girls. It's disgusting, seriously.
5. High risk of bumping into the walls. And trust me, I'd seen men who looked and they fell off their bikes. VERY HILARIOUS.
6. Females are attracted to men who have confidence in themselves and certainly NOT HAVE A PAIR OF DARTING EYES.

Sufficient reasons no?

And what makes a gu niang?

1. Endless complains + complains + complains
2. Thinks they are gu niang. If you thinks you are a gu niang, CONGRATULATIONS, YOU ARE ONE!
3. Being touchy touchy especially towards opposite sex. Touching is a connection. You know why people touch? Because their words are not powerful enough to make an impact such that they have to touch the other party. Confident men don't do that no?
4. Complain about how fat they are. GOODNESS! Complain about MUSCLES. Complain they are not tanned enough. Like i say, endless complaints.
5. Complain about PIMPLES! Complain about scars! Complain about hairs!
6. And I've to correct one thing. Carrying your gf bags does not make you look GU NIANG OK! You want example?

Scenario One
Gf: Eh, darling, help me carry my bag leh.
Bf: Okay. *take it*

Scenario Two
Gf: Eh, darling, help me carrying my bag leh.
Bf: Huh.. mai lah.. dun wan lah. look sissy leh.. later other people thinks i'm sissy how. cannot lah.. dun want. *show that embarrassed face*

YOU TELL ME! WHICH ONE MORE GU NIANG?!

TAKE IT LIKE A MAN CAN ANOT?!

Unless of course, your gf carries pinkish furry bags. That's their own business. Tell them, "You like to hang these kinda furry stuffs ah, girly girly stuffs, you carry yourself okay, since you are proud of your bag so much.

Other than that, if your gf is carry a PERFECTLY ladies bag, I DON'T SEE WHAT'S THERE TO WHINE ABOUT?? Yes! I call that whining! DAMN GU NIANG CAN! I DISGRACE SUCH MEN!

I HATE WHINEY MEN!

"Don't want lah, what others will think of me?"
"Eh, don't want lah. Don't look man leh."
"Eh i tell you" *touch arm* / *touch shoulder*
"Eh, I'm fat leh. Goodness!"

It's okay to complain. Everybody complain.

But ground rules:

1. KNOW WHEN TO STOP! You men, think it's tiring to hear your gf talk about how fat they look in their dress, we ladies HATE to hear men talk about how fat they are too!
2. Why the hell you want to care about what other people say?! Hello, a real man DO WHAT THEY LIKE. And their best interest in the relationship is needless to say, THE GIRLFRIEND? So why the hell are you so cautious about what other people say?!
3. STOP TOUCHING. You want to talk, just talk. You want to take pictures, just take pictures. WHY MUST TOUCH, I ASK YOU?! Have gold to take is it? Rub an inch of the skin will drop gold?!

Goodness. I hate men touching me. I REALLY HATE IT! What you think I am?! Some barbie doll?? "Please touch me" hung over my neck?! If i want to be touched, I'll go be prostitute. I don't NEED YOU TO TOUCH ME!

Men like to solve things eh? Like to FIX things eh?

Fine, FIX THIS!

If you can't even handle your own relationship, SHAME ON YOU to even talk about SAVING THE WORLD.

And I AM NOT going to comply to a bunch of crap poorly sampled population surveys. I am ME! I am LAU LI LI! I live my own life! If i want to mix my thoughts with other people opinions so much, I MIGHT AS WELL GO LIVE THEIR LIVES for them.

I AM SPECIAL AND I AM PROUD OF IT!

So don't expect me to comply with simi, "My friend said this", "my family said this', "my whoever said so". THEY CAN SAY WHATEVER THEY WANT, who gives a damn?!

I said this in one of my ancient posts and I will repeat it again:

"If your life is all about listening to what your friends/family/ideal model say, and you are so easily influenced and affected by what other people tell you to the extend that it affect your thoughts, i tell you what... Congratulations! Because your life is merged and made up of other people' life and thoughts! GOOD FOR YOU! You should just stay home and be a home-made robot for you don't have a mind of your own!"

How can you be freaking confident when your thoughts are NOT EVEN YOUR OWN?!

At the end of the day, when something happens, are you going to turn around and say, "Shit. I shouldn't have listened." and regret?!

You've no one to blame but YOURSELF for being such an IDIOT!

I may make the wrong choices/decisions, but when i looked back, AT LEAST i brought it upon myself and i made the decision myself.

I don't wish to look back and realized, "hey, why the hell am i doing this?!"

And men, if you want respect, give respect. You want face, ego and pride, fair enough, but don't do it at the EXPENSE of your loved ones.

You want wise women, WE WANT WISE MEN.

No matter how wise a woman is, when there's a dumb man... seriously.. It's not going to help anything. Because the man is TOO DUMB to realize, "hey, my gf/wife is wise!"

And your material stuffs like car etc is NOT everything! You want your own hobbies, fair enough... but make sure when you are out with your partner, STOP RANTING on about your hobbies because we give YOU time for your stuffs, WE WANT YOUR TIME TOO! Can PARTITION ANOT?!

Much as we want to love and care for you, WE NEED TO FEEL LOVED AND SECURED! Without that, DON'T ASK for anything.

We don't need a man who can read minds. But if for a certain period of time, you still do not know what your gf/wife is looking for, then SOMETHING is wrong!

And couples, STOP going round and round in endless battles/arguments on, "You are wrong. you should have done this.." because EVERYONE COULD HAVE DONE SOMETHING ELSE so that the dispute WOULD NOT have happened but the fact is IT'D HAPPENED and obviously, you are not the other party, YOU WOULD NOT HAVE DONE THE EXACT SAME THING AS HE/SHE HAD DONE! That's what makes both of you unique, dumb!

1. Set a time period to cool down. Not more than half a day.
2. Sit down in a quiet place and make sure, by that time, both hearts and mind are clear of all things.
3. Meet up with ALL DOORS open. Do not have the mindset of, "I am here to tell you how you SHOULD HAVE done it.", "I am right, I didn't do anything wrong", "I won't take such thing, you are wrong." The moment you start to judge, the discussion would have already started the wrong way.
4. First thing first, let either party say what they have to say. Explain what he/she have to explain. And no, you don't start the ball rolling with, "Okay. you can start explaining" Just say, "Come. Let's talk things out. You can start first."
5. Make sure that your words bring NO THORNS and NO hidden agendas. No name-calling. No "I feel you should...". No, "you are wrong" Spill out what happened and explain your actions in seeking for a COMMON UNDERSTANDING. Not out of defensiveness. DON'T be defensive. HELLO! THIS IS YOUR PARTNER! Not battle!
6. Start second round (after both partners have spill out whatever they want to say) by saying, "I understand where you are coming from." and make sure you REALLY understand. Try putting yourself into the other party's shoes. Some things, yes, you might not have did the exact same thing but imagine you have a character and personality like the other partner! Like for example, she was late for an hour and did not call, explaining that she genuinely just want to hurry and reach there asap so did not contact you for fear that you'd start scolding etc. Yes, as much as it sounds that she's in the wrong, put yourself in her shoes. She GENUINELY wants to get there asap and she's afraid you'd scold her. What's wrong with that?
7. Don't interrupt. NEVER INTERRUPT. I know it's hard because you might hear things that you don't like hearing but WAIT for your turn. Don't go thinking about anything else OTHER THAN what he/she is saying. Don't go thinking of what to rebut and etc.
8. Recognize that both have their rights and wrongs. There is NO definite wrong or rights.
9. Compromise. Come up with a solution. He doesn't like her to be late, just say, "Okay. Why not this... " and start coming up with a neutral solution. Say things like, "I understand how you feel. You have your reasons for doing that. I'd work on blah blah blah, is that alright with you?" Then the other party say, "Yes. Then I'd work on blah blah blah blah" Both say out WHAT THEY REALLY WANT and tadah. FAST, EFFICIENT AND NO ONE GETS HURT.

If you do not even know how to solve any quarrels efficiently etc, don't even talk about, "We'll go through all obstacles together" when both can't even stay united.

And one most important thing..

Never do/say things that you don't want to hear or want others to do to you.

Remember this.

"And this marks THE END of the entry."

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