There would be no sacrifice because all that has been given up would be something worth while and bigger than the present. When you are in a relationship and are truly in love, you'd see that no sacrifices are too big for the future.
Because all you are doing now is throwing out what you think are "big golds" for the "smaller golds" in a sinking ship till you realize, when you are on land, the "smaller golds" are worth more than the "big golds"
Being in a relationship is more than holding hands, meeting up as many times as possible, going for movies or anything physical. Because if you only feel that you are in a relationship because of physical interaction, that's superficial.
Being in love and in a relationship is simply, "the distance of the hearts"
However, it is not as simple as saying, "I love you and you love me too".
All of us know, actions speaks louder than words.
To complain, "We don't meet up as much as before, you no longer love me" makes relationship superficial. However, if an individual prefers to have his own time all the time, then, the love is in question.
Holding hands is not everything in a relationship. Neither is hugging. However, it is proven that physical interaction heals the heart. Partners should be holding hands when there's love and not the other way round.
In a relationship, both partners should be supportive of each other.
Like i always advice my friends..
"If you know the art of communication, the art of solving problems in the most effective way, any quarrels will only last 5 minutes compared to cold war for 5 days"
Both parties should unselfishly understand each other and compromise a solution which may not be totally what they want but at least, it does not go over the limit.
Compromising is just as simple as distributing notes and 5 cents coins.
Both parties should have equal share of notes and 5 cent coins.
Notes are seemingly beneficial and obviously, useful. However, people tends to belittle 5 cent coins.
And at the end of the day, when both party compromises, they'd realize they end up with less notes and more 5 cent coins or equal number of notes and 5 cent coins when they actually asked for all notes.
However, they do not know at the end of the route, it's the 5 cent coins that is going to collate and turn out to be of greater good.
The 5 cent coins are the ones that are going to teach every individual how to appreciate.
Differences is acceptable.
Have it ever occur to you people, why is it that the more you dislike something, the more it'd appear in your life?
"I detest arrogant people"
And you are attached to one.
"I detest geeks"
And you are attached to one.
"I hate sales job"
And you are working as salesman.
Why?
It's a lesson in life you should learn which is to appreciate and accept.
The more you can't stand something, the more it'd come to you.
If you choose to give up, there'd be two routes ahead.
One: you'd feel guilt for a long period of time
Two: The next person/job/situation that comes up will force you to appreciate and accept it.
Take a look at me.
I've plenty of examples.
I hate sales. And i landed a job in sales.
I detest JC/Uni students because I find them overly competitive and arrogant and I'm attached to one.
I made this statement, "I'd never wear contact lenses ever!"
And i wear it practically everywhere I go now.
I said, "I'd never wear skimpy clothes! They might as well don't wear anything!"
And i wear even skimpier.
There are certain situations that forced me to appreciate and accept the way people are. Because it's either that, or I'm stuck in a well. Meaning, I've lived for nothing.
Because the beauty of humans is that we learn and we improve.
How can we improve when we are always stuck in our own well and not see things from other peoples' point of view and accept people for who they are?
Every individuals are different and that's what make them your friends/gf/bf/whoever they are.
Because you are attracted to their differences!
They are able to do things you never thought you'd do.
They are able to say things you never thought you'd dare to say
They are able to act on things that you never thought is appropriate
That's how you learn!
If you are constantly surrounded by people who are similar to you, you'd never learn and move and you'd forever be stuck in your comfort zone.
You can complain your gf/bf's temper is bad.
You can complain your friend's judgment is bad.
You can complain your friend's clothes taste is bad.
You can complain your gf/bf's way of living is weird.
But so what?
It only proves one thing.
YOUR JUDGMENT IS BAD!
Because YOU CHOSE THEM TO BE YOUR CLOSED ONES!
Why are you complaining about your own judgments and decisions?
And so what are you going to say?
"It's just my luck."
Wait till you see the next person you are going to land with.
Until you learn to accept the way people are, the way people do things, the way people handle things, you'd forever be stuck in that vicious cycle.
You complain to your friends that your gf is not caring enough.
You complain to your family your bf is not sensitive enough
You complain to your brother that your gf is not understanding enough
You complain to your sister that your bf is not attentive enough.
You are actually criticizing your own judgment.
And if anyone complain on their closed ones unreasonably, I'd ask,
"So why did you choose to be with him/her?"
Then they'd reply, "But well... He/she has this as well etc etc"
Then I'd reply, "So why are you focusing on the down sides of her/him?"
I'm not asking anyone to forgo the bad of anyone because it'd surface. But all I'm asking for everyone is to learn to appreciate every other individual, be it good traits, bad traits etc because that is why make that person for who he/she is!
We don't change anyone but we seek for improvement.
However, when one party choose to give up and walk a separate path from the other...
It's nobodies fault.
It's just... the love is not strong enough.
Unconditional Love do exist.
And I've witness it.
To forgive, forget and accept your loved ones for who they are.
Because that's what makes them special.
"And this marks THE END of the entry."
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11:18 AM
Living a life full of life. That's all about me that you should know.